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Posted by camilla. Question: He's older than me and lives in another country. Is there a hope for this relationship? Will it last?
She He It wouldn't be wise to determine far reaching questions with the limited information of planets and signs only. Here's what I can say: there is romance in the air, and the feeling is mutual! Planetary combinations are looking good. If anything, you're a little too much alike. It's got to be a relief for both of you to find someone who shares your unusual level of sensuality. You both also tend to sacrifice yourselves for the ones you love. Because of this, a commitment to each other could protect you both from being exploited, and such a relationship would be especially sweet. Looking beyond the signs to the patterns of the planets, consider these questions:
Does being involved with him help to focus your energy more positively? Plus.
Do you feel that you are, or would be, working together in an important cause? Plus.
Are you both financially strong? Plus.
You've asked this question in part because he's had a semi-wild past. Do your gut instincts tell you he's finished with that lifestyle? Has he said (without you hinting), "I'm ready to settle down?" Because he's older, he may be ready for a commitment he could not have made before. Plus.
Do you feel confident that he would be a good match for you? Plus. If the answers are mainly pluses, or if the minuses are not high priority for either one of you, then someone needs to apply for a visa. I would say he of the Saggitarius moon should probably be the one to travel. :-)
~Tante Lynn
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Posted from hagitz. Question: How well do we communicate? Hello hagitz, you give an impression of being cool and easygoing, even a little insecure, in most situations. But when your love energy is focused, you can be intense and demanding toward the object of your desire. In your Capricorn friend, you've met your match, haven't you? Looks like the two of you may have fallen in together because you happened to be in the same place at the same time. You're so much alike, it's easy to be around each other - as long as you're not talking. But you're right, communication is a big issue between you. When he hears your words, your Cap immediately turns them into a concrete plan of action for you. You thought you were just talking about your options. When you don't act on everything you mentioned, Cap takes it personally; he acts as if you've deliberately let him down. When you weigh several possibilities, Cap gets impatient with you because he knows you can't do all the things you're talking about. You might say, "well of course, I'm just talking about it," but he really doesn't get what you mean. From his side of things, like a general or CEO, Cap is always concentrating on his master plan. He's excellent at seeing people's strengths and delegating the right task to the right person. You want to feel like his soulmate and playmate, though, not his subordinate. Sorry to say, he's not going to be the team player you wish he would be. If you've used the "Ask Tante" online oracle (not currently available - TL), you probably already know your Mercuries are in square. It's important that when your discussions start to become arguments, to physically separate and shut up until you're both calmer. The best way to assure this is to agree ahead of time on some kind of gesture or signal that says, "time out". The common idea that arguments clear the air, won't work here. Treat words with great respect, because for you as a couple, words are like cactus spines: once they get under your skin, they may never heal. It's a very good idea to have a trusted advisor you can call to settle things between when you really get blocked. Best wishes! ~Tante Lynn |
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Posted by jazzyjoe. Question: Will our financial situation improve regarding our place of residence in the next 5 years or so? Hi jazzyjoe! I'm sorry, this question is beyond the scope of the Ask Tante format. Astrologers use mathematical formulas, longitudes / latitudes, and tables of planetary positions to do their work. The Ask Tante form doesn't request this information because its focus is relationships, and many compatibility factors can be judged from dates alone. To answer the question you've asked would require birthtimes, birthplaces, and the name of the town you're presently living in! Keep checking back at focusforms.com, future developments will expand the possibilities here. Thanks for writing.
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Posted by roxanton, September 27, 1963 and August 7, 1964. Question: Marriage? Hi roxanton! There are many layers to your personality. Sometimes even you don't know why you do what you do. One of the most attractive things about your Leo is that, although he is bright and intriguing, he projects a straightforwardness which you find refreshing. He is a very self-sufficient person, well-meaning, but not always sensitive to the needs of others. In considering marriage, three things you can't do without are:
Miscommunications do occur between you. The way you have of telegraphing your emotional needs is hard for him to read, and vice versa. Serious misunderstandings can develop even when you both mean well. One thing that worries me is you're both heavy hitters verbally. While you have no trouble communicating, neither one of you pulls any punches, which could accentuate the mutual feeling that your emotional needs aren't being met. Work around this by letting the other person know what makes you feel loved, instead of expecting them to guess.
Try this and see if you stop getting into those power struggles. If it still happens, this pattern may take a great deal of time and effort to break. Listen to your heart; do what you know is right for you. Then whatever you decide will work out for the best. |
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Posted by samspela. Question: Is this a relationship to build on - or is it one to forget and move on? Hello samspela. You know this is a big question that can only be answered by the two of you. Here's what astrology says to help you decide. (Please bear with my assumptions about gender.) You have a lot in common; for one thing you've both been told how gifted or lucky you are. Looks as if you work together or are in the same line of work. She's more focused and ambitious; you're more likely to scatter your energies. It's not easy for you to give each other respect and appreciation, and because you're both a bit insecure, you both need lots of it. But your ability to talk things out is good, and would probably become even more satisfying over time. You have a strong instinctive connection; the chemistry is undeniable, unusually so. If you're not living together now, then sharing space, splitting expenses, etc. would actually make things better. Can you *both* accept that your relationship is unconventional? Can you *both* handle not being very affectionate? Can you learn to give each other space in professional matters? Are you both willing to scale back on the partying (I mean that in a broad sense) and get help with that if necessary? Without birth times and places, there are some things I can't tell. This is an intense relationship, no fence sitting allowed. If it feels toxic, it will probably get worse, and you should leave it alone. If she's married, let her go, at least for now. If she's willing, it's mainly positive, and you (samspela) are just unsure about making a commitment, you'll regret if you don't give it your best shot. ~Tante Lynn |
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Posted from k_meeks, April 11, 1974. Question: Hi. I would like to know a little bit more about my mutual reception between mercury in aries
and mars in gemini, thank you very much. Hi k_meeks! This is a very good, advanced question which really requires birth time and place. I can say this: your Mercury is challenged by a square from Saturn and opposition from Pluto. At times, you've found yourself in situations where someone with power and authority has directly opposed your interests. The mutual reception of Mercury and Mars helps your words and actions reinforce each other, so with effort you are usually able to turn these situations to your benefit. This is a chart with a lot of drive, with many challenges, but also many gifts and talents. Your life won't be ordinary or boring.. Don't take chance meetings for granted,
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Posted by "lk-kj", January 1, 1963 with January 25, 1963. Question: "Testing this for better options, I'm sexually deprived." Hello there. Are these are real birthdays? If so, the Capricorn has inner conflicts about sex that the Aquarian doesn't. If there are problems, the Capricorn
should look within for the solutions. Pay attention to the ways you put obstacles between yourself and a satisfying sex life, Cap. Your Mars are both in Leo. Same
sign combinations like this feel very familiar and safe. No conflict, but not much urgency about getting together, either. In other words, sexually, you'll become bored unless
you make a special effort to keep it interesting. In other ways you energize each other so much it's exhausting. Find ways to relax with each other; use a hot tub,
hire a masseuse to come to the house, or take a yoga class together. |
